One question that will help you rebuild after divorce

In the aftermath of a divorce or financial abuse, rebuilding your life can feel overwhelming. The path ahead may seem uncertain, and at times, it can be difficult to stay focused on your goals. This is where finding your ‘why’ becomes essential.

Your ‘why’ is the deeply personal reason that fuels your journey forward. It’s what keeps you motivated when progress feels slow and what helps you realign when you veer off track. As Simon Sinek famously said, “Start with why.” Your ‘why’ is the foundation that everything else is built upon.

Your why can evolve

Your why doesn’t have to be set in stone. It can (and likely will) change over time as you grow, heal, and gain confidence.

For me, in the beginning, my why was solely about my child. I needed to ensure they were safe, stable, and cared for. At that time, I didn’t yet see myself as worthy of being part of my own why. But as my self-worth grew, so did my why. It began to include me—my happiness, my financial independence, my dreams. And now, after years of rebuilding, my why has stretched even further: to help other women who are navigating the same challenges I once faced.

Your ‘why’ as a North Star

When everything feels hopeless, or when you find yourself struggling, go back to your why. Let it be your anchor. If you’ve fallen off track financially, emotionally, or mentally, remembering your why can help you reset and move forward with intention. It’s okay if you need to redefine it along the way. What matters is that it remains meaningful to you.

Finding your why

If you haven’t identified your why yet, start by asking yourself:

• What drives me to keep going each day?

• Who or what am I working towards?

• What kind of future do I want to create for myself?

• How do I want to feel in my life?

The answers don’t have to be perfect, and they don’t have to be final. Just start somewhere, and let your why be a guiding force on your journey to healing and financial empowerment.

So, what’s your why? It might not come to you straight away but seriously start thinking about it. When you own your why, you take back your power.